Hey, Gorgeous! I’m Sara. A wedding photographer, mom to three, whose pant size 2 is now a size 6 from gaining 40 pounds, whose super-de-duper height of 5’2″ makes me feel like some people don’t take me seriously and who had perfectly clear skin all throughout high school but now looks like someone’s trying to make pepperoni pizza if I’m not wearing foundation.
Phew. Wasn’t that a fun run-on sentence?
All of us women diss ourselves so much that it becomes our second language. It’s easier for us to look in the mirror and see our flaws than it is to notice the things that make us beautiful us. When I look in the mirror, I focus on my acne instead of the unique color of green & blue that my eyes are. I cringe at my scars but forget to look at how my smile makes me look so happy & approachable.
As a wedding photographer, I hear and see about every complaint a woman makes about her own body or personality. I see how easy it is to critique ourselves because I am constantly doing it to myself all of the time. Last year, Casey & I had a photoshoot for our ten year wedding anniversary and when I received the images back from our photographer, I cringed at how tired my eyes looked and how swollen & puffy my face was. I received over 100 images and I loved less than half of them. 60% of the images made me self conscious and to this day, Casey hasn’t seen those images. Not to mention, I went in and edited out every flaw our photographer seemed to miss. :O
Nearly every engagement session has started off with the bride telling me how awkward she thinks she’ll be in front of the camera or if I can help her hide her trouble spot, etc. This has come from every height, shape, size and age. Unfortunately, feeling flawed isn’t reserved for only those who resemble Joe Exotic (haha!). Even the prettiest girls see their flaws. But I want each and every one of you to remember one thing. You are not alone. Every woman in the world has insecurities just like you do.
My promise to you is that I will always see your beauty. I will call you gorgeous. I will help you feel confident, comfortable and beautiful every step of the way. From the way that I pose you to the positive conversations that will always take place. I will edit out your blemishes and make your skin glow radiantly from the way I manipulate light with natural reflectors. It’s all because I believe that when you look at a photo of yourself, you should feel pure love, happiness and beauty radiate from it.
I remember being at a photo shoot with a few other models when I was in high school. We all had perfect hair, perfect makeup, working out and eating exactly how we should. I sat next to my friend who was complaining about the size of her thighs when she sat down. She was 5’7″ and weighed just a little more than I did but here she was complaining how big her thighs were when seated. I looked at her and said, “Girl, the size of your thighs sitting down is the size of my thighs standing up. It’s just because you’re sitting. You’re gorgeous.”
And to be completely honest, even though my thighs were bigger than hers, I didn’t feel bad about that flaw because I worked hard for my thighs. I did 250 sumo & chair squats every other night and wanted to be able to hit a toe touch higher than anyone else on my dance team. I’ve never had a thigh gap, I never will and that’s ok. I’ve accepted that. But it’s easier to accept a flaw that you were born with than something that happened later.
Now, I’m starting to see gray hairs creeping in here and there. I’m like, “Oh no, you don’t!” 😛
But guess what? My husband thinks I’m the most beautiful woman in the whole world. He doesn’t see my flaws like I do. And I promise that your fiance/husband thinks the exactsame thing of you. So aswe enter engagement and wedding season head on, I want you to remember that you are freaking beautiful regardless of the flaws you may think you have.
I will say though, “Thank goodness that there is makeup to hide our acne & scars, dye to hide our grays or high heels that add a few inches to us to make us feel tall and slender. It brings out our ‘feeling sexy’ side.” 😉
Happy Saturday, beautifuls!